Sleep deprived mind ramble coming your way…..
I read a post on facebook today about a woman who was in hospital with her son. He was having an asthma attack and wasn’t coping well with the situation. He had autism and sensory processing disorder.
A stranger entered the situation, gave help and calmed the little boy down. She didn’t stand back and judge the behaviour. She didn’t look away uncomfortably. She saw a mother struggling, a little boy struggling, and kindness won over.
Yes I cried reading this.
Sometimes our second born, who was diagnosed with ADHD last year, can act out. To someone watching from the outskirts it may seem he is being defiant, pushing my buttons and purposefully disregarding what I’m asking of him. Some may see a ‘naughty’ boy. Some may think see bad parenting.
What they won’t see in those particular moments is a sweet natured, caring, curious, intelligent young man, who happens to have been born with a neurological disorder. Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder.
His brain doesn’t work like yours or mine. It works differently. And unfairly, the symptoms of this disorder are shown through behaviour.
Impulse control, working memory, executive functioning are a few of the areas in which he struggles.
Thankfully there is a medicine that helps him. It helps his brain to work ‘normally’. But it isn’t permanent. It wears off and I can see the change in his eyes. The change in his face. The clarity has gone.
And it’s in these times where I need to increase my patience. I need to increase my understanding and lower my frustration. This can be difficult to do when there are three other children to look after and I’m exhausted.
But the poor kid shouldn’t grow up only knowing mummy’s anger and frustration. He should grow up seeing kindness, compassion and understanding.
I believe we are given that which we are able to cope with. I feel blessed to have been chosen to be his mother. And mother to our three other sons.
Together we can handle whatever is thrown our way. With education, compassion and loads of kisses and cuddles, our boys will hopefully grow up utilising their full potential and be decent human beings.